A few years ago, we would never have imagined ourselves as part of an organization working for the Reform of Sex Offender Laws. It was never our problem. We trusted our lawmakers.  We trusted the system. Few crimes bring out more fear and loathing than sex offenses. Convicted sex offenders are the most hated members of society. There are times when we wish we did not know what we know today, times when we long for that peace of mind that naiveté brings.

source: UltimaHolyFlare on YouTube.com

Families Advocating Intelligent Reform is a group of volunteers who know firsthand that the New Jersey Sex Offender Registry has become a useless list of names that the public can no longer use to decipher between those who pose a true threat to society and from those who have been arbitrarily swept up in this legislative predator hysteria.

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If you would like to donate stamps, paper, envelopes, inks, advice, your time or anything else please contact us at: info@NJFAIR.org

Dilution is not the solution.

Multiple crimes of varying degrees are now “registerable” offenses in our Nation:

  • Smacking or grabbing someone on the buttocks, groin or chest is a registerable offense
  • Consensual sex between a 19 year old and a 17 year old or an 18 year old and a 16 year old is a registerable offense
  • Sexting, between juveniles as well Sexting between a juvenile and any 18, 19 or 20 year old boyfriend or girlfriend results in a registerable offense, in most States.

Those who have committed no sexual crime and even innocent citizens are listed on public registries.

        • In my opinion, in New Jersey an accusation alone is sufficient to convict, no physical evidence, no witnesses, no specific dates or times must be given, just claim it and it’s done, be it the truth or not.
        • Public urinators, streakers and mooners that were convicted in other States and placed on their registry, will be listed on the New Jersey registry if they relocate here.

This is where the New Jersey Sex Offender Management Unit and the Internet Advisory Council recommendations about the Registry has gone wrong and deviated from any legitimate attempt to reduce crime, in my opinion.

There is a large difference between stealing a newspaper and robbing a bank, these crimes are considered theft, but both are separated by law and society; thus the penalties are proportionately different from one another.

The current laws stigmatize someone as a “sex offender” or “sexual predator” in the United States and in New Jersey do not distinguish the differences in offenses like consenting teenagers and serial rapists. Once listed, all are considered to be  “perverts”,  “pedophiles” and  “predators” and just as dangerous as Phillip Garrido, Anthony Sowell and John Gardner for life, by the public, law enforcement and leaders in our communities, state and federal legislators.

Our goal is to stop new and harsher laws from passing in both New Jersey and the Nation by being a resource of information for the leadership at both the state and federal level.   Through education of our leaders we hope to revisit and reform our current, harsh, unjust sex offender laws that we believe should never have been passed in the first place.  Although we do understand the intentions behind most of them, we also understand and are living the unintended consequences of these laws.

One thing our legislators may not have thought about were the grandparents, the mothers, the fathers, the children, cousins, Aunts, Uncles, friends, neighbors, and supporters that these laws also destroy.  The children that get harassed at school because of a public registry or the mother that looses her job and her life savings because some girl lied about her age on the Internet.   Or the grandfather who literally dies of shame. And how about our youth?


Our goals fall under three major categories: 
Support, Education and Quality of Life Support.


Families Advocating Intelligent Reform is a 501(c)(3) not-for-profit organization that engages in education, public awareness, and support to F/RSOs, the family members, loved ones, friends, neighbors, and supporters.   Donations are  tax-deductible.  Your donation can be monetary, it could be an Office Max or Staples gift card, copy paper, envelopes, or it could be  U.S. Postage stamps.  We would also love it if you donated your time.  We always need volunteers.  There are so many ways to help.  Go to FAIR Volunteer to get more information. 
Families Advocating Intelligent Reform. Inc.
PO Box 3357
Mercerville, NJ  08619


All Correspondence is Confidential

[Not all donations need to be in cash.  You can donate stamps, evenlopes, paper, and most importantly your time.]


From http://www.afrog.org/2010/

Words to my child

REMEMBER WHAT I TOLD YOU I came across something I wrote to my child after we were all “outed” on the registry. After all the work my family did, the click of a mouse opened it up again. I can’t tell you how many people asked my daughter, “how could your mom stay with him?” I needed to counter ‘their’ words with mine. Here are my words:
  • Remember what I told you … You have the right to say NO to anyone or anything that makes you uncomfortable in any way. Remember that you have the right to be safe in your own home. Remember that you have a beautiful voice and I am so very proud of you for using that voice.
  • Remember what I told you … That there are healthy and unhealthy ways of dealing with things that happen to you in life. Sometimes you can not control what happens in your life but you can control how you react to things. That it matters more to act in a healthy way than to any actual event in your life. Whatever happens in your life, OWN it, CONFRONT it, and LEARN from it. Refuse to be a victim.
  • Remember what I told you … Knowledge is power. Knowledge and research are powerful tools when confronted by the “unspeakable.” It is through understanding the dynamics of the crime committed against you that true healing can manifest itself.
  • Remember what I told you … You did nothing wrong! You are such an amazing spirit. Never let anybody take that away from you. I am so very proud of you.
  • …. for the rest go to http://www.afrog.org/2010/


Families Advocating Intelligent Reform is not a crisis center and does not provide emergency services of any kind including: crisis intervention, counseling, housing, legal or financial assistance. We are able, however, to connect you to information and resources where these services are available. We encourage you to take the next step and contact the appropriate resource.  

One response

  1. Thank you for brining to light this awful human rights violations against women and children. Many do not understand the collateral affects the registry has on families.

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